Okay, maybe not every single time you get cranky. . . there’s only so much nuance you can cram into a title.
But the point is this, that whole “letting it go,” thing? It needs an upgrade.
So, a qualifier before anyone takes my advice literally and ends up in the cardiology unit, the practice of letting things go is powerfully positive at times. It is often the healthiest choice available to you. Stupid drivers, incompetent customer service reps, and sugar-drunk children? Let it all go. There’s no point to holding on to your vexation. You have no control in these situations. The only thing anger will do is damage your psyche and relationships. Invest in a punching bag, swear when no one’s listening, and consider making meditation a regular part of your life. In short: deal with it in whatever method is most effective for you, and then, let it go.
When things piss you off and you have control over them? Get pissed and stay that way! That anger? It’s the well of motivation and creativity you need to kick the status quo in the ass. Every person with a health comeback story started by being pissed when their doctor told them their cause was hopeless. Those curve-jumping billionaire entrepreneurs? They were pissed because they saw a problem that needed fixing and promptly created a product/service to fix it. And all those rights and freedoms we enjoy? They came into being because brave people got pissed when they were told, “That’s the way it is,” and decided to fight for another way.
So, stick with it. Hold onto it. Embrace your inner crabby-ass and let them push you through your doubts and fears. It’s one of the best weapons out there for creating something beautiful in a world that’s at peace with its ugliness.
What are the things about which you need to get angry to keep your dream alive?